Bridesmaids and groomsmen – how many should you have, and how do you choose?
Choosing who will be on your bridal party can be fun – it’s a way for you to tell which people are most important to you, it could help you decide on the style of your wedding, and it’s a chance to return the favor to the people who made you’re their bridesmaid. But though having a big bridal party can be great, you should know what that entails. Below are five points to consider before picking your bridesmaids and groomsmen.
Additional wedding cost. Typically, your wedding attendants pay for their own attire and accommodation, but they will still need a few things which the couple has to provide. These include the bouquet and boutonniere, the bridesmaids and groomsmen gifts, and special accessories. If you have an attendant who is young and doesn’t have a lot of money to spare, you will have to pay for his or her expenses too. More wedding attendants also mean a higher cost of your rehearsal dinner and wedding transportation.
The wedding venue. Another thing to consider is the location of your wedding ceremony, and whether it can give a good position to each of your bridesmaids and groomsmen you have in mind. A garden or beach wedding, for example, is better suited for fewer people (three pairs of attendants is probably ideal), while a cathedral wedding can acoomodate a lot more (perhaps as much as ten pairs). Note also that some ceremonial sites in Singapore advise limiting the number of wedding participants.
Getting everyone together. Apart from helping you with the planning and assisting you on the big day, your wedding attendants have other responsibilities that may require a lot of time, some of which they will have to do together. Remember that the more people are involved, the harder it will be to arrange everyone’s schedule for the wedding rehearsal, the parties, and the weekend activities. You may also have a problem deciding who to bring during your shopping for your gown and other bridal items.
Keeping it intimate. While it’s great to celebrate your wedding with as many people as you know, it’s best to keep the core participants of your wedding to the people who are closest to you and who will put a big significance to your wedding. Even if you belong to a clique, you’ don’t have to include all of them to your bridal party – just the ones who you are particularly close to. It’s also great to include your favorite sister and your childhood best friend. The smaller your bridal party, the more special their roles become.
It’ll cost them too. It’s a big honor to be a bridesmaid or a groomsman, but something has to come out from them too – namely, time and money. Again, they will have to spend time helping the couple starting from, to the preparations, and until the day of the ceremony. During that time, they will have to pay for most of their expenses. Here in Singapore, where most professionals keep a tight hold on their budget and schedule, being a part of the bridal party may mean a little too much obligation for some people.
So how big should your bridal party be? Well, there really is no magic number. You can have as much as you can accommodate and as much as their availability allows it. Conversely, you can also have as few as just a single attendant each for you and the groom. Just remember to celebrate your wedding with the people for whom your marriage will mean the most.
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