Any chinese here skip those tradition customary

[june1985]

Hi all,

Anyone here intend or already did their actual wedding, to have simply wedding dinner and skip all the morning stuff such as go fetch bride, gate crash, back to home tea ceremony.

I thinking to have just tea ceremony at the hotel room then have the wedding dinner.

Can skip those 过大礼， 提亲， 上头？

Just want a simple wedding will do as I already rom 2 year ago. Haha

Care to share with me your experience

Thanks for reading my post...

[rojak]

few pple do "ti qing" nowadays... not sure what is "shang tou".. but most parents / PIL still like to stick to having guodali, gatecrash and tea ceremonies. You may want to talk to your parents to see what are their views? it's generally done to please them, so if they're ok, then go ahead and skip it

[Alyah]

Us us! My mother told us to skip all those things.. Ha I'm lucky I guess.. =)

[jingjing]

i prefer to stick with them.. it's very symbolic and you only get to do it once!

[june1985]

Haha.. I will discuss with both parents then see how... Wedding is so tiring but happy to do it.. Haha

[hong]

We are sticking with the traditions
If both of your families are agreeable with a simple ceremony, by all means! As long as everyone is happy!

[gyselle]

i am only keeping the chinese traditions that matter to us and that we understand.
Like the tea ceremony. no point in all the rest coz we dont know what it means

[snowy]

上头 i wont do la, but actually if you have time it's nice to do. very touching moments~ if you see the photos you will feel touched also haha

[hero]

Its all for the parents and seniors... They will want to go thru it as a symbol of their children get married

[lovecharis]

We are not going through the Customary.... just going to held our ROM Solemnization, no Actual Dinner ..it depends on both side parents, if they are fine, i prefer a simple and memorable one

[caramelbabe]

we decided not to do the gate crashing ceremony and immediately proceed to the wedding ceremony.

[anemonee]

We didn't skip the traditional customs because the elders urged us to conform.

[Melvin1206]

No gatecrashing for me, I find it unrespectful for a solemn wedding.

[floraleprints]

i didn't do the gatecrashing thing too since we want our wedding to be solemn.

[Honeypokey]

I have decided not to do gatecrash and just a small wedding reception. Does anyone have any idea what should I include in the reception beside solemnizing infront of my guests. What else can I do? March-in? etc.......