Any chinese here skip those tradition customary

[zhixingeralyn]

Same here. I don't intend to do gatecrash cuz it can be quite messy haha. If I were to omit the gatecrash, do I proceed to the groom house first thing in the morning? And do the bridesmaids have to come to my house in the morning still? What's the procedure like?

[stormydays]

I have a few friends who did not do the gate crashing but still did go pick up the bride and tea ceremony etc.

[thetemptress]

it really depends on you. you can do the gatecrashing to make the wedding fun or not do it to make it even more solemn.

[cin17]

me too, i had my ROM in australia, so i'm just doing the dinner in sg and i am not doing the gate crashing stuff as it is too much of a hassle to prepare.
Both my parents and his parents agreed and said it was up to us. I guess it's up to individuals.

[summerdaisies]

we both agreed to not have the gate crashing.

[sugarbetz]

I am very fortunate to have very cool parents and in laws who let us do everything we wanted for our wedding. I didnt go though any 过大礼， 安床， 上头，etc. I didnt have any gatecrash as well. My Dad even didnt wanted the Dowry but my hub wanted to do so, so just arranged a day b4 our wedding to give the angbao to my Dad, and he returned part of the dowry to us back.

Honeypokey - For my wedding, I did a tea ceremony in my hotel room , followed by solemnization with a march in.. followed by my lunch reception.

[loveholic]

my dad and future parents in law are v flexible too! we are skipping the 过大礼， 安床， 上头，gatecrash etc.. of course the tea ceremony to me is a must (despite being v un-tradition hahaha).
i also told my dad my HTB won't be giving dowry and he's okay with me but my HTB insisted... he said it's for 'yi si yi si' purposes.
for the reception day itself, my HTB and i will check in 1 night earlier to the hotel... hahaha. no fetching of bride also :p

[purpleyheart]

we didn't skip it but i think it's alright to skip it if you really want to.