Do you observe Chinese wedding customs?

[rainbow]

Hi brides, do you follow the traditional chinese customs?

For me, i probably will observe the gatecrashing and tea ceremony, but An chuang, guo da li and shang tou probably will not.. haha.

[meilingg]

I should be following the traditional customs.

My parents not so traditional but my future parents-in-laws are quite traditional and I personally also wish to follow the traditional.

[sotong1003]

personally for me, i think as a Chinese, we ought to observe those Chinese wedding customs.
though some might find it "lay chey", i guessed it has their meaning bhind for observing it.

[meilingg]

Yup! that's what I think so.
It's just a once a lifetime event so why not follow the customs.. =)

[flyerkiss]

Hi all, I feel its better to stick to the traditional wedding customs.

Well, when things went well, nobody will say anything. BUT if things go wrong, people will start saying like.. 'You didnt follow this during your wedding day, thats why.. ".

Besides the meaning behind the tradition, it has other implications.

[meilingg]

Hi all, I feel its better to stick to the traditional wedding customs.

Well, when things went well, nobody will say anything. BUT if things go wrong, people will start saying like.. 'You didnt follow this during your wedding day, thats why.. ".

Besides the meaning behind the tradition, it has other implications.

Agreed. Although they might be perfectly fine if we don't follow all the traditions but we also don't want anything to happen and ended up finger pointing at us for not following in the first place...

[PrincessCrystal]

i think if u follow, u must really follow exactly what it says if not if anything happen, they will say u never do this never do that. asking why u skip this and that.

[flyerkiss]

i think if u follow, u must really follow exactly what it says if not if anything happen, they will say u never do this never do that. asking why u skip this and that.

Agree, or rather we must have a common consensus with both families first before we go ahead with our planning. If both side are okay with just gatecrash + tea ceremony without An Chuang, then its fine. For me, I experienced slight disagreement over the date, so I got Shifu to pick the auspicious the dates for us and for that, our families have no dispute and are okay.

[astutekitty]

I may not follow exactly the same, some of the items we can skip or if really need we can find other things to replace what the original item required.

For example, we need to buy pyjamas for husband and wife for Dowry. For my htb and me, we don't wear pyjamas for sleeping but only tee shirts and shorts.

In this case, if really need, I would rather buy something that is useful for us like buying of tee shirts and shorts as "pyjamas".

Anything that can be replace, we will try to replace something that are useful for us in future. ^^

[ronaldng85]

Yup. We observed the custom since my parents demanded for it.. anyway its once a lifetime isnt it? =)

[poshberries]

Yes, for me personally I do because it is the only method to show our ancestors and older folks about our appreciation towards them. And most importantly, this is a a form of respect as well. That is the reason why I am still practising and preserving alot good manners & traditions now. Hope this answers. Thanks.

[Tammy Poh]

How about buying night gown instead? that can act as a "pyjamas" haha and I am sure your hubby would love it on that first night.

[Mike1982]

hi hi

an chuang supposed to be done at couple's matrimonial home until a few months later the earliest

but say the BTO keys not ready yet, to proceed with the an chuang still (can't possibly use parents' bed to deem as the bed for the an chuang process?)

[jewelbox]

yes. in laws are very strict when it comes to that..

[damselena.]

Yeah. It's my way of showing respect for the cultures and traditions.