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    how to juggle parents expectations

    Not sure if its part of marriage preparation or is it just me

    As the marriage preparation goes into full steam, already start to have some conflict/bickering with parents on the following:

    Banquet venue - deem east side location far although eventually gave in to the choice

    Select dates to do photography - after telling the dates for the shoot, some nagging that the date too close to qin Ming but already book the air ticks etc

    Any comments?

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    We just inform our parents the location and the timing of all the events only after all preparation have been completed.
    Parents from both sides were not allow to chose or offer any suggestions, so that it will be fair for both sides.
    We heard too many ugly stories and have decided that is our own marriage not anyone else.
    We are the pay master and we will decide on what we want and where we want.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mike1982 View Post
    Not sure if its part of marriage preparation or is it just me

    As the marriage preparation goes into full steam, already start to have some conflict/bickering with parents on the following:

    Banquet venue - deem east side location far although eventually gave in to the choice

    Select dates to do photography - after telling the dates for the shoot, some nagging that the date too close to qin Ming but already book the air ticks etc

    Any comments?
    You must stand firm, remember everyone is able to make suggestions but the people who are paying and going through the whole thing is the both of you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kpi View Post
    You must stand firm, remember everyone is able to make suggestions but the people who are paying and going through the whole thing is the both of you.
    wah...what u say is valid too.
    not tht i am against parents (be it either one or both) give their word or 2...but i just sometime feel like the meat patty sandwiched between two slices of bread..

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    If only they can let us 放多些手去做,haiz

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mike1982 View Post
    If only they can let us 放多些手去做,haiz
    No worries bro, things will work out some how.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kpi View Post
    No worries bro, things will work out some how.
    at the moment, i will need to keep fingers crossed and hope things turn out well
    thanks for the encouragement...

    just out of curiousity, did u and your partner encounter such things during the course of your wedding preparations?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mike1982 View Post
    at the moment, i will need to keep fingers crossed and hope things turn out well
    thanks for the encouragement...

    just out of curiousity, did u and your partner encounter such things during the course of your wedding preparations?
    nope, cos both of us made an agreement that this is our wedding and we will plan it in our own style.
    We respected suggestions from both parents but we will decide ourselves on what we want.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kpi View Post
    nope, cos both of us made an agreement that this is our wedding and we will plan it in our own style.
    We respected suggestions from both parents but we will decide ourselves on what we want.
    wah..tht's nice...

    i guess it's really about 听听意见,but have to juggle the supposed nagging if the couple's preparation has some "落差“ from what parents / in laws desire or want...

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    end day make own decisions better..

    good or bad outcome no need point fingers..

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