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    how to start good relationship w/ in-laws?

    hi!

    my partner and I are planning to get married a year or two from now.

    So now, I want to start a good relationship w/ my soon to be in-laws.
    It's not that I have bad relationship w/ them, its just that we're not that close.
    I want to get rid of the invisible wall between us before we get married.

    Any suggestions how to start w/ a good impression and how to strengthen ties between me and my in-laws to be?

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    Organise a joint family gathering.. e.g dinner together. at groom's or bride's house.
    Buy small gifts and remember ur in law birthday dates. hobbies and favourite food. Make effort to do some family bonding on weekends. e.g once a month.. Lunch treat after bonus.

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    always bring something for them everytime you visit your partner's family.

    you'll never get wrong with gifts. gifts are always appreciated by anyone.

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    gifts wud really show ur thoughtfulness.. and nobody doesnt like gifts.. even just small tokens wud do.. or bring food for the whole family everytime u visit them.

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    It is important to organize an event wherein you can get to know them better. It's also an opportunity for them to get to know you and welcome you into their family. Just be yourself and do not forget to show that you respect and love them as you do your own parents.

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    the most important key, in my opinion, is to maintain constant communication with them.

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    I talk a lot with them and try to relate with them as much as possible.

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    I have known my bf family for many years but I never feel comfortable in front of them. To me, whatever they said are commands and not a choice. It is very stressful for me. I wonder if anyone experience the same ?

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    Member cookiesncreamie is infamous around these parts
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    the key is an honest and sincere communication with your in-laws. tell them more about yourself an spend a lot of time with them to cement the relationship.

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    the first and most important thing is to show respect for them and their opinions.

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    In addition to all the posts above, don't skip out family reunions or other special occasions. It would also be great to call your in-laws once in a while, especially if they live far away from you. lastly, you don’t have to like your in-laws, but treat them with respect.

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    try taking each of the members out on a lunch and then do a family dinner or something. that way, they'll get to know you more.

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    I bonded first with my mother-in-law and then I started asking for life advice from my father in law.

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