How to tell people very nicely you won't be inviting them for the banquet?

[shopperholic]

Hey ladies, just wondering...erm if any of you have had friends who "automatically" assume they are invited to your wedding but you are not planning to invite them? How do you "tell" or "hint" to them that you are not inviting them?

[meilingg]

yes yes!!!
My banquet is next year and there are people telling me remember to send invites to them...
I don't know how to reject~~~~

[babasheep]

seems like a tricky situation.. probably i'll just say okok.. and dun send them the invites? and hopefully they will get the idea when the date is close

[rojak]

"i'll let you know nearer the date"

or you can just explain to them that it would be a rather small cosy wedding.. they'll get the hint..

[meilingg]

But sometimes we will scare they will feel offended?
They will be thinking why you invite so and so but not them?

[cheesecake]

Wah... like dat ah... i think i offended many people already.

People also kept asking me to invite them, but my wedding dinner is really very small.

I just tell them... "still early la. even if i have wedding dinner, probably it would be just a small family and a handful of close friends gathering like that"

Did this sound offensive or not huh?

[jellybean]

I think that it's acceptable explanation. I will understand if someone told me that

[meilingg]

Wah... like dat ah... i think i offended many people already.

People also kept asking me to invite them, but my wedding dinner is really very small.

I just tell them... "still early la. even if i have wedding dinner, probably it would be just a small family and a handful of close friends gathering like that"

Did this sound offensive or not huh?

Like that should be ok lah.

But then like my case, some will think that you treat them quite close and they sure will be invited.. but then in the first place in my name list, their names are not there...

I just hope when date gets nearer, i will just tell them my wedding is really a small one so can't invite everybody...

[cryoaz]

I just tell people it's a small scale event. They will understand one.

[shopperholic]

I think the small scale explanation sounds reasonable. just that after the dinner they found out you invited some friends but not them, how to erm explain it away? rather embarrassing i think?

[pinnpinn]

Mine is a small scale event too. For my ROM, told a couple of my friends about it and my HTB told his friends about it too. And they are all really understanding. I guess cos it's not the actual dinner so it's not too bad for us? Our situation I meant. But if they are really ur close friends or understand you, they wont feel offended. Maybe you can like have a mini "celebration" outside of ur wedding?

[Tenshi]

well it either you tell them ok ok then dun send them the invitation.... after that if meet up they ask you just say that you miss them out lor cause too buzy liao... hahahah

if not as the rest say tell them its just a small event most people will understand.

or if not tell them ok ok then dun send them the invitation...after that just say that you guys final decision is a small event lor ..

hello people we are no longer like the older generation liao did not invite this or that person will offend this or that person no face la now a days most people are very understanding and if they are not invited they also save money leh ... you think go to your wedding no need to give ang pow meh.

[jgtan]

Just tell them it is a small affair and only inviting family members? WIll it work?

[Tenshi]

jgtan i think you just add in "and a few close friends will be better" like that nothing will go wrong.

[lassymoo]

hahah...yeah must specify "few close friends". i won't expect a fren i haven't spoken to in 10 years to invite me to a wedding banquet!