Preparations before ROM

[rayeileen]

Hi fellow PW forummers!

Just wanna ask something in regards to ROM.

Lets say if we decide to skip the weddinng banquet dinner/lunch and only do ROM celebration, we still need to go through the Guo Da Li, An Chuang, Gate crash, Tea ceremony procedures?

We feel that we can customise and put alot more effort on the ROM celebrations for our closest kins.

Well, dinner banquet is more like show for parents and will cost quite a sum (looking at 45-50tables).


Any thoughts to share?

[rayeileen]

btw, Guo da li, an chuan is do before solemnisation date celebration or actual dinner date?

Sorry for the noob qns as i see alot of people doing solemnisation & AD dinner together and thus, they settle all the tradition stuff together.

What if we decide to hold the solemnisation celebration first and probably the AD dinner 1-1.5years later?

[skhappy]

Hey there rayeileen! i have the same puzzling thoughts abt all the traditional stuff too! but i think in this generation, we are not that particular abt when we do the ceremony? i myself, is going to hold my ROM this year July,and my AD is probably 12/12/14. thats ard 1.5 years away after the ROM. And since my ROM i decided to do it small, and save for the main investment next year, i plan to do the gate crash, tea ceremony all of that next year on my AD. Although at first, it made more sense to me, to do gate crash and tea ceremony before ROM, because 1.5 years later, technically, you're no longer like a 'new' bride. HAHAAH! but i guess it all depends on you and HTB and probably both parties parents. For me, it kinda works out well, cause my HTB, soon to be in-law and my parents, don't really mind how we wanna do it. That's just my 2 cents worth, hope it helps you make a decision

[anemonee]

Yeah.. we're actually thinking about foregoing the traditional stuff..

[babymaybe]

When should I do the high tea? And preferably where?

[wintermusings]

Can we skip the other ceremonies and just do the rom and wedding dinner?

[colorfulbeanies]

very informative thing... thank you all for the info!