Hi, my HTB n I decided to have our solemnisation on 25 Dec 2013. We will be having our banquet around 3rd quarter 2015. We are in a dilemma if we should hosts a reception after ROM, as we don't wish to see relatives spending extra by giving red packet for ROM as they still have to do so when we have our banquet. But we were told by some friends and relatives that we should invite relatives as a show of respect. Is it not respecting or rude if we just hosts the solemnisation in a hotel room with just both families and never invite any extended family? Hotel packages requires minimum 30-50pax, we calculated that would costs us $4-5k. We are big families from both sides, so we are stuck whether to have one anot.

Can someone enlighten me? Thanks.