Si Dian Jin

[lassymoo]

Hi ladies, saw a thread on the dowry/ betrothal gifts and thought i'll ask for your opinions and maybe experiences...mothers-in-law need to purchase jewelry for their daughters-in-law, right? i don't like yellow gold so is it ok to tell my husband to "hint" to her to get white gold pieces instead? my fren actually went with her fiance to select the piece she wants then her fiance went with his mom to buy it for her...
is this something that is common..?

[meilingg]

should be ok bah.
nowadays brides prefer white gold.
and we got to wear it throughout the wedding.

i guess some MIL will automatic buy white gold?
wonder mine will buy what... hmm...

[geraldineyap]

yeah i prefer white gold too! at least more likely i will wear it than yellow gold! hahha...

[jeweled]

How about diamonds? Hehe. My friend's mum bought diamonds for her Sister-in-law! Not all diamonds luh, but some pieces are diamonds.

But I think gold is still better? I understand that nobody really wear gold out nowadays, but value wise, it got the most value! IMO, white gold doesnt seem to have a very high value. In terms of appreciation wise, I think gold sld be better.

[meilingg]

Yup yup. My mum also told me the same thing. Gold have higher value than white gold.

But even if it is of higher value, i don't think it matters to me cos those jewellery i will be keeping it, not as if i'm going to sell it away next time.

[jeweled]

TRUE! It's something that was given to u for ur wedding. Similar to engagement ring, I dont understand why some people will wanna "upgrade" it. I wont, cos it's too significant and important to me.

[meilingg]

Proposal ring is a special ring! if upgrade for the sake of a bigger diamond, it defeat the original purpose of why our htb gave it to us already. It won't be the same ring also... I don't think my htb will be happy over it neither...

[pinnpinn]

My HTB actually say I can upgrade if I want (But I told him I wont, so he didnt get those rings that come with those upgrade "special") And yes, it defeat the purpose if u upgrade! At most I ask him to get me another one in the future! Haha

[meilingg]

My HTB actually say I can upgrade if I want (But I told him I wont, so he didnt get those rings that come with those upgrade "special") And yes, it defeat the purpose if u upgrade! At most I ask him to get me another one in the future! Haha

wahahaha! that's a good idea ya... anniversary ring~ LOL

[rojak]

Hmm. are you all girls teochews? isn't si dian jin a teochew tradition? or everyone does it nowadays? issitweird to have a s dian jin if you're actually a non-teochew? like very greedy liddat, ask for so much dowry

[pinnpinn]

I guess it's kinda norm now to have it for all brides. I have cousins and friends who are non-teochews but got it too. My mum got hers when she got married

[lassymoo]

Dunno leh...it's like quite common. non-teochews oso get their si dian jin...

true that yellow gold has more value since the gold content is higher compared to white gold. i guess if not intending to wear the pieces, then it's just for keeping then can keep as heirloom to pass on to the nez generation? haha...

i like the anniversary ring idea! wud be great if the hubby can afford it...hahah

[pinnpinn]

Yup! But maybe by then, I wont want an anniversary ring anymore. There might be other things to spend the money on!

[astutekitty]

For me, I will accept what my MIL give it to me, as it is a token from them.

Whether it is golds, white golds or diamonds, I will not sell or upgrade.

As for wearing, I will ask my hubby to buy for me. =P

[mellowhearts]

My Si Dian Jin is a set in yellow gold while my MIL got an additional white gold pendant for me which she gave me during the tea ceremony. Her intention was that the yellow gold has value which may become helpful in time to come...Hahaha ;)