We have finally had a talk. He said that because we always quarrelled, he gave up trying since 2 years ago (we've been together 3 years). I told him that he forgot to look at why we quarrelled, and told him its a vicious cycle - the less he did anything, the more frustrated I was, the more we quarrelled. And I told him that despite the quarrels which werent all my fault, i never stopped trying. I told him finally that I've decided to stop trying, stop putting in any effort.
he said he's sorry, he wants to try again. So I'll give him yet another chance. But I'm really not going to put in much effort... it hasn't been worth it, no way am I going to give up a proper job and spend lots of money on him again. I was so cut up last year when we broke up, but now i know, he didn't really care enough to do his part.
He didn't want to speak to a marriage counsellor in the past (neither will he now) - he told me to stop being childish and stop threatening him. Oh well...
he said he's sorry, he wants to try again. So I'll give him yet another chance. But I'm really not going to put in much effort... it hasn't been worth it, no way am I going to give up a proper job and spend lots of money on him again. I was so cut up last year when we broke up, but now i know, he didn't really care enough to do his part.
He didn't want to speak to a marriage counsellor in the past (neither will he now) - he told me to stop being childish and stop threatening him. Oh well...