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    Woudl you rather marry the wrong person or not marry at all?

    Hi ladies, I have been dating my current fiance for more than 5 years already. You can say that I have spent most of my youth with him. i see a few of my friends who after a few years of marriage, say that they regret marrying because they feel that they have married the wrong person. It made me think as well.

    Just wondering here whether would you brides here choose to marry the wrong person or not marry at all? If let's say you have spent many years of your life with him..

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    Quote Originally Posted by jasmine View Post
    Hi ladies, I have been dating my current fiance for more than 5 years already. You can say that I have spent most of my youth with him. i see a few of my friends who after a few years of marriage, say that they regret marrying because they feel that they have married the wrong person. It made me think as well.

    Just wondering here whether would you brides here choose to marry the wrong person or not marry at all? If let's say you have spent many years of your life with him..
    I'd rather wait for the time is right, when both of us are ready. The no. of years together is definitely not comparable to the no. of years to come which both of us will be spending together - for the rest of our life. =]

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    Since it's the wrong person why marry him? Why do wrong things?

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    @KnGp, that makes a lot of sense. but often we can't tell whether that person will be the right one for the rest of our lives. it could be now, but things can change in the future eg. change of personality etc. That's what i'm fearful of subconsciously.

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    @cryoaz, often times the person in our lives seems to be the right one at this point of time..

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    Hmmm....we can't predict the future, can only do what we think is right at that time. But if we think is wrong, then doesn't make sense to go do it. I believe everything is fated. Things happen for a reason.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KnGp View Post
    I'd rather wait for the time is right, when both of us are ready. The no. of years together is definitely not comparable to the no. of years to come which both of us will be spending together - for the rest of our life. =]
    Totally agree with your view KnGp!

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    Quote Originally Posted by jasmine View Post
    @KnGp, that makes a lot of sense. but often we can't tell whether that person will be the right one for the rest of our lives. it could be now, but things can change in the future eg. change of personality etc. That's what i'm fearful of subconsciously.
    When the time is right, i believe this will not be your worry already. =]
    Have faith in yourself, have faith in your partner.
    Things do change, both for good and bad. However, if u choose to focus on the bad, all beautiful good changes will be disregarded.
    If u choose to think that he is the right one, he will be. Love is blind..
    Look on the bright side of life jasmine.. =]

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    It part n parcel of life. In life there is a lot of " What If " . Think about, balance of good and bad of him. I believe he got good thing that make you happy, cheer you up when you sad, fetch you to and from work, or buy u gift meal...... If he is totally really nothing you can write good about him. I think he already left his in heart other place. Just my view

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    Thanks KnGp, marriage is really tough, it takes two hands to clap. and for the rest of your life as well.

    Legacy: i believe these things help to keep a marriage alive. it can really become boring at times.

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    yeah not marry at all, if the person is not suitable..

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    Not marry at all man..Then again, am not sure if soulmates exist...Dam!

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    Definitely not marry at all...but then i married my husband even when there were so many cracks in the rs. not because i wanted to get married, but because I hoped marriage changes things. Apparently not.

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    Not marry at all. Rather stay single and happy, than to be divorced and unhappy.

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    But its difficult to be single and happy. I have been single for around 5 years... but feeling lonely. It gets harder the older you get. Your friends are all busy with their kids and married life. There I go trying to do meaningful things like social work and stuff, but seems that its a gathering place for the single and lonelies! Its like there isn't someone to have total faith and trust in you.... or to depend upon..............
    I got attached a year ago and am getting married come Dec2012... but even tho I listed the reasons above, I seem so unsure.....

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