Getting Married Step 1: The Engagement Ring

You may be wondering where to begin in your search for the Ring, and just like Frodo from The Lord Of The Rings, you will probably feel great apprehension at the challenge ahead of you. Fear not! Help is at hand! Here are some tips to help you get started:

Engagement Ring


Before you walk into a jewelry store, you need to decide on your budget. Now, tradition tells men that they need to spend between one to three months’ value of their salary for the ring. Considering the other expenses ahead as you begin the wedding preparations, most brides wouldn’t want their fiancé to spend that much money on the ring. In your part as the loving husband-to-be, do remember to assure your future wife that the ring is important for you as well and that you will give her the best that you can!


The most expensive part of the ring is the diamond. Getting yourself familiarized with what to look out for in the stone will help you know what you are paying for, and lets your future wife know you have poured in effort to research on the ring!

Very quickly, the 4Cs – Color, Cut, Clarity and Carat tells us the quality of the diamond.

Color is graded from D (Colorless) to Z (Light Yellow) and the more colorless it is, the more valuable it is; while Cut tells us about the shape of the diamond and the number of facets it has (the more facets there are, the more light the diamond will reflect, which will give it its brilliance).

Clarity refers to the inclusions within the diamond (small air bubbles, other minerals, etc.). Clarity is graded from F (Flawless), IF (Internally Flawless), VVS1-VVS2 (Very Very Slightly Included), VS1-VS2 (Very Slightly Included), SI1-SI2 (Slightly Included), and I1-I3 (Included).

Carat refers to the weight of the diamond. Some diamonds come with a certification to tell you the quality of the diamond.

Each individual value different aspects of the diamond and if the size of the diamond is important to your future wife, then you may have to make adjustments on the other Cs unless your budget allows otherwise.

Ring Setting

The next aspect of the ring is the setting or the layout of the ring. The 3 most common styles of setting for engagement rings are: Solitaire, in which a single rock sits in the middle of the ring; Pave setting, in which smaller diamonds are encrusted along the band leading up to the bigger diamond in the centre; and 3 Stone setting, wherein two small diamonds are set beside a single large diamond.

Assuming you are buying the ring as a surprise for your future wife, you will need to consider her lifestyle to help you decide on the ring setting that is best suited for her. A fancier design may not be practical for daily wear especially if she is a very active person.

Ring Size

This requires some undercover work. Make yourself too obvious and you might spoil the otherwise lovely surprise you have for your future wife. So how do you figure out her size? Start snooping around her jewelry drawer or playfully slip her ring onto your fingers to get an estimate of her size. When you visit the jewelry store, relay the information you have to the jeweler who will then be able to help you establish her ring size.

You can also rope in her family and close friends to help you as well! They will be very glad to help without giving the game away! Most importantly, fret not if the ring is too big on her dainty finger because it can be altered. And she would understand!

Now that you are equipped with the knowledge of how to shop for The Ring, take your time to shop around for it. Pay attention to her dressing style, likes and dislikes to help you know here style and decide what ring she would love to have. Give yourself ample time to get the ring ready before the proposal, which will be another exciting aspect altogether!

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