The DONT’s of Marriage Proposal

Are you ready to propose to the love of your life? Make sure that everything goes well by avoiding these common wedding proposal mistakes.

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A lot of men stumble through their wedding proposal not because of lack of preparation or nerves, but simply because of poor judgment or unrealistic expectations. Make sure that nothing goes awry during your wedding proposal by observing these seven precautions.

Don’t propose too early in the relationship. The two of you are in love, you’re compatible, and you want to spend all your time with each other. But unless you’ve completely known each other and can see yourself spending the rest of your life with no one else, you probably shouldn’t go the marriage path yet. Sometimes love makes us make bad decisions: don’t set the course of your life based on bare impulses.

Don’t do it in the middle of another event. During a sports game, a party celebration, or any other lively occasion is not the time to ask her to marry you. You would like your proposal to be special, possibly even magical, and that’s something you can’t have while you’re surrounded by people cheering and shouting, and completely oblivious about your special moment.

Don’t propose while intoxicated. Proposing to your lady when you are clearly not in full control of yourself is not only unromantic, it’s downright thoughtless, even contemptible. If you propose drunk, you will not only embarrass your girlfriend, but you will also make a fool out of yourself and – given our attitude towards being drunk here in Singapore – probably even land yourself in jail.

Don’t hide the engagement ring in her food. Despite what you may have seen in countless movies and TV shows, it is not a good idea to put the engagement ring in her food. The idea has now become tired, plus it presents a lot of opportunity for mishaps. If you want to propose to her during a meal, pull off something more creative and personal like a serenade or a love poem before asking her the big question?

Don’t bring her family along. Even here in Singapore, where it is highly advisable to inform her parents of your intentions and to ask for their blessing, proposing in front of her family is usually not a good idea. Having other people around would only put pressure on both of you and may even cause distractions. Your proposal should be intimate and it is best done in private.

Don’t complicate the proposal. Your proposal will be a milestone in your relationship, and it’s understandable that you would like to make it as special as possible. However, you shouldn’t forget that – at the end of the night – the important thing isn’t the fireworks or the fancy dinner, it’s that you ask the question right.

Don’t expect for a quick answer. “Yes” is what we want to hear here, but don’t expect it immediately after you’ve posed the question. Those four little words can form a very big question that can easily overwhelm any girl. To help her prepare, give her increasingly less-subtle cues on what you intend to do, and when the right moment comes, make a brief speech, go down to one knee, and ask her, “Will you marry me?”

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