hi kimchoo, besides bridezillas there are jiemei-zillas and xiongdi-zillas!! >.< but relax.. there are ways of getting around things.. everyone has their own preferences.. if some jiemeis are uncomfortable with certain cuts, then we should try to accomodate them as much as we can.. take their opinion into consideration. however, color a little more difficult, since if you already have a color theme for your wedding, then they need to dress accordingly. if you're buying the bridesmaid dresses for them, then really they have not much say in choosing the color (getting their opinion is our way of respecting them, not their right!). but if they're the ones paying for the dress, you might want to consider getting a neutral color that they will be happy, and yet matches your color theme as much as possible. if you have very bossy jiemeis who want to dictate the style of your wedding / food you serve / people you invite, ignore them!!! it's YOUR wedding, not theirs! as for the xiongdis, there are always super onz and super sianz ones around. don't let those sianz ones dampen your happy spirit! if they're unwilling to do certain things, leave it as that. it doesn't really matter, coz the limelight is yours.
but i would recommend you make sure you do have a couple of onz xiongids to ensure a rowdy and happening day
that said, if they are getting too difficult, let them go! you have so many friends you can choose from as xiongdis and jiemeis. it's your big day, you have the final say! cheers!