Did you feel pressurized to get married?

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missylis

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I feel that now it's more of my parents and in laws to be who are pressurizing me to get married instead of my own decision.. since bf and me have been dating for almost 5 years. Anyone experience it too? I don't want to go through it too early when I don't really feel ready yet. :(
 
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cheesecake

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1st of all, how old are you missylis?

Most importantly, do not get married becos of :
1. a flat,
2. wanting to stay away from your naggy parents
3. seeing your girlfriends are getting married one by one
4. wanting to wear beautiful wedding gown
5. hoping that you will lead a good life after you married your rich husband
6. parents wanting you to get married.
 
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lassymoo

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missylis, you and your bf have to discuss and see if you two are ready. like what cheesecake said, don't marry because others are telling you to. only the 2 of you will know if you are ready for that step together.
 
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pinnpinn

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Also, dont feel pressurized just because age is catching up on you. I think you need to talk to ur parent's luh. If it's for ur best interest, they will know what to do! :)
 
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pretty bride

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only do it if it feels right, and you know in your heart he's the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. anything short of that conviction is not good enough, because only when you're sure, then can the marriage last.
 
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emilyy

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agreed with cheesecake. I think seeing my girlfriends are getting married one by one was one of a push factor, and many of the other things mentioned by cheesecake also apply to me haha. for me, my hubby wants to get away from naggy parents, but oh well, our flat will not be ready by the time we marry yet anyway haha. You have to feel ready before taking the plunge!
 
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julieswong

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get maried only if both of you feel that you are ready for it.. not because other people want to.. never succumb to the pressure!
 
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lovehearts

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You should get married when you want to get married. Do not be pressured into something you don't entirely want. It's your life. :)
 
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orangeball

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Then I suggest that you don't go through it. Getting married when you're not ready might just end up in a mess. I think both you and your bf should talk to your parents and tell them the plans that you have. I did not experience your situation but I know you can manage it. :)
 
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MontrealWedding

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It's possible that from a very young age you were taught that marriage is a right of passage and you don't become an adult or a woman until you get married. Remember that this social pressure, real or imagined, doesn't make it true.
 
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poxie

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my hubby and i decided when we should get married. we did not get pressurized or anything. better not get swayed by them since it's between you and your bf. being pressured into marriage might not result to a good relationship.
 
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felicity

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no not really... my family just worries sometimes that i'm too focused on my career than i forget to date and meet people too
 
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